Lin,
I have been at numerous units in different parts of the country as life has taken me in different directions and have been on dialysis for quite a few years (have beaten the statistics I guess). I have never been dumped, but have been threatened and harassed in a past unit.
Yes, I’ve had some interesting experiences. I had an administrator who went berserk on me one day. It was rumored that she was on prozak. I was tethered to the machine, as usual, and she came out and started ranting and raving at me saying I was always trying to cause trouble by not going along with things like most of the other patients did. Huh, I am always respectful but blind faith has never been my style. I believe in being educated on my tx. and actually ask questions. The admin. seemed to have two personalities. When she was in her good persona she was real friendly and loved to educate me. She’d say she wished the other patients would care about their txs. like I did. But then when she would get in that other personality…watch out! When she went wild on me, I believed the prozak rumors were true. I had to tell her she better settle down and get away from me and learn what it means to act professionally. She slinked away and the next time I saw her she acted like nothing had ever happened.
I have read your many posts about the male tech and about your tx issue. You do as I do- you repeat things often hoping to educate the dialysis community. On another occassion, the unit got dinged and that was the time I was threatened. I was taken aside by one of the professionals and asked if I was the one that caused the unit so much trouble by reporting them. I was given that speech they give you of “Maybe you would be happier at the other unit in town” (the one that was even worse than the one I was in!).
Another great day I had was when one of my previous neph went ape on me, because I asked him a question he could not answer. It was something relating to the machine and nephs don’t know the machine but they will act like they do. Well, he went balistic and I countered with, “Excuse me but I’m old enough to be your mother and I don’t appreciate being spoken to in such an unprofessional manner!”. The neph, Mr. Arrogance, was so pissed off that his face turned red and I thought I saw steam come out of his ears. Every nurse in the place had their ears peeled. Amazingly, the patients slept through the whole incident lol.
There is something about being tethered to the chair unable to freely defend oneself that makes it really troubling when a professional decides he is going to start an argument. I am always polite, but when that sort of thing occurs when I am on the chair that is when my line is crossed and I go into defense mode lol. I don’t think these medical professionals realize what a cardinal sin it is to harass patients on the chair. Just like with the administrator, I wondered what the neph was going to say the next time I saw him. He, too, acted like it never happened. Strange huh? I guess they blow up at times. Probably wasn’t even me they were frustrated with, but because I don’t lay there and go to sleep like most patients I became their target.
Oh well, these were just some of my funniest/craziest moments in dialysis. My current staff is a 10 compared to some of the previous staff- I can’t believe that almost every single one is so nice. But there’s still the patronizing and wall of silence you spoke of from the higher ups. Does it ever end?
You are so right that we shouldn’t have to lose anymore time than we already do to bring unit violations/unprofessional behaviors to the public’s attention. Home hemo is our well deserved ticket to freedom. But I don’t think I could go free knowing that those vulnerable little elderly ladies and men are still there with no one to defend them. Not just them- all patients are victimized by the mentality that rules in so many of the units. I don’t know if I will succed, but I feel like I must always try to do my best to expose this situation and bring change. As I’m sure you know, Lin, there were numerous heroic patients and patient advocates that proceeded us who did their best, too, to carry this message. They died handing the baton on. It’s disheartening that so few patients will put up a fight and the patient advocates are so few. But I never give up hope that there will be a breakthough.