The grass always seems greener on the other side when it comes to dialysis. Sometimes it is, but you won’t know until you can see it for yourself, with your own eyes. To make the right choices as an individual, and let me tell you, from my experience, it’s a very individual thing, you need to not wear any rose-coloured glasses.
I’ve done both short daily during daytime (I tried mornings, afternoons and evenings at various times, over a four month period), and I was on daily nocturnal for a year and a half, with many short daily’s during that time.
Doing it for a couple of hours during the daytime has some advantages and some disadvantages, and doing it overnight is the same. It is not necessarily a situation of, “Hey, I’ll sleep through the whole thing and happily go off to work in the morning like everybody else”. I hope you will have an extremely flexible, understanding employer, because there will be nights that in French, we call “une nuit blanche”. That’s a night where you don’t sleep much. There will be nights with frequent alarms, you can count on it. There will be nights where something goes wrong and you have to deal with it. There will be nights where you’ve had trouble getting one of your needles in, and then when you do, it causes one alarm after another. There will be nights when the fire alarm goes off if you live in an apartment building, or the power goes out. There will be nights when, without prior warning, the city water turns off for whatever reason. It’s amazing how often that happens during the night, but who but a nocturnal hemo patient would know or care? You won’t much feel like going to work after one of those nights, and even if you do, don’t plan on being very productive!
And even when things go well, I’m not really prepared to sit here and say that you sleep normally. It’s more like a mother sleeps when there’s a newborn in the next room. Some of you mothers out there may remember what those first 6 months were like. You do have to be able to wake up and respond to alarms when they happen. You may also be a little more restricted in your available sleep positions. I found that the dialysis side was impossible for more than 20-30 minutes or so, because it restricted the blood flow to my fistula, and sooner or later, you guessed it, alarm and arm shaking time.
Daily nocturnal is terrific, but I wouldn’t necessarily say it’s the solution to all of our problems. It’s still dialysis. I’ll just say it’s a solution.
Let me put it this way, with nocturnal, you get most of your days free (the ones when you don’t have to be home for the delivery guy, or for the technicians who are there either to fix your machine or to perform some scheduled maintenance, or the guys who change the carbon tanks, or… well, you get the idea. I found I could always count on 3 days at home right off the bat, because I had 3 separate supply monthly deliveries (the dialyzers from Fresenius, the general supplies from the hospital, and the many boxes of dialysate solutions from Baxter. Then, once a month, I had to collect pre and post-dialysis blood. This meant I had to take it to the out-patient hospital lab in the morning. And on those occasions when that included iPTH, I had to get it there pretty soon after collecting the blood when coming off treatment. And that was just the regular, predictable stuff, not including the times when they sent me the wrong dialyzers, or the bottom of the box broke when the hospital delivery guy took it out of the truck, and all the stuff fell into the dirty snowy slush, etc. For the regular stuff, I always knew the day, but not the time of delivery. But it was always a pretty safe bet that it wouldn’t be at 8 in the morning just so I could have the rest of my day free.
Short daily uses up half of your daytime, no matter how you do it. So you don’t get entire free days. But then, you do get free nights. So, it all balances out, I think. What’s more important to you, free days, or free nights?
All that being said, I do feel, no, I do know that daily nocturnal hemo (5 to 6 nights per week) is superior to everything else in terms of how good it makes your lab results look. There’s just no comparison.
Sex? You’re on dialysis, right? What sex
Just kidding, with some degree of reality. Look, that machine doesn’t have to be rolled right up to your bed when you’re not on treatment. The most obtrusive part of the system is the water purifier. See if you can have that installed in an adjoining closet or something. R/O’s tend to be noisy. During treatment, well, I couldn’t tell you. It can be hard enough just lying there not causing any alarms. But once you and your partner get used to it, you don’t even notice there’s a machine there anymore.